It's a rough decision. I had a very odd situation when Carson was a baby. We were so poor then cause my ex was going to school full time and I was working three jobs so we switched off. I had Carson during the day while the ex was at school and I worked at night while he was home with Carson. This is how it went for two years while the ex finished college. Once he graduated and got a banging job we could afford daycare. Anyway, rambling done. I hope it works out either way you decide to go.