Am I sexist?
Dec. 7th, 2010 01:47 pmStory time....
Hubby and I have very different musical tastes. He mostly listens to the local Top 40 Pop type station (The Mix) and similar stations. I listen to the rock/alternative station (Q101). As you can imagine, when we are in the car, there is a lot of station flipping going on. He noticed a trend a while back that pretty much whenever there was a female singer on, I would change the station, so one day he asked what I had against female singers. I thought about it for a moment cos I didn't think I had anything against female singers. After a little consideration, I came to the point that it wasn't that the singers were necessarily female, just that females are most likely to make the sort of bubble gum electro-pop that I basically despise. Hubby accepted this and we moved on.
Fast forward a few weeks and here come Glee. Specifically, here come The Warblers with their cover of Teenage Dream. Now, Katy Perry is basically in my Top 5 of "Oh, dear God, please go away and stop existing" musical artists. However, I CANNOT GET ENOUGH of Darren and The Warblers and their cover of this song.
For some reason, I am greatly disturbed by this. Am I sexist? Do I just dislike all female singers? A friend asked me who my favorite female singer was, and I pretty much couldn't answer.
I am so confused by this for most likely no reason at all and I should just stop thinking and enjoy whatever music I enjoy. But this is disturbing me....
Hubby and I have very different musical tastes. He mostly listens to the local Top 40 Pop type station (The Mix) and similar stations. I listen to the rock/alternative station (Q101). As you can imagine, when we are in the car, there is a lot of station flipping going on. He noticed a trend a while back that pretty much whenever there was a female singer on, I would change the station, so one day he asked what I had against female singers. I thought about it for a moment cos I didn't think I had anything against female singers. After a little consideration, I came to the point that it wasn't that the singers were necessarily female, just that females are most likely to make the sort of bubble gum electro-pop that I basically despise. Hubby accepted this and we moved on.
Fast forward a few weeks and here come Glee. Specifically, here come The Warblers with their cover of Teenage Dream. Now, Katy Perry is basically in my Top 5 of "Oh, dear God, please go away and stop existing" musical artists. However, I CANNOT GET ENOUGH of Darren and The Warblers and their cover of this song.
For some reason, I am greatly disturbed by this. Am I sexist? Do I just dislike all female singers? A friend asked me who my favorite female singer was, and I pretty much couldn't answer.
I am so confused by this for most likely no reason at all and I should just stop thinking and enjoy whatever music I enjoy. But this is disturbing me....
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Date: 2010-12-07 07:54 pm (UTC)So, I don't think liking that version better has anything to say about you as a sexist listener; I think it is just a better version of the song.
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Date: 2010-12-07 08:01 pm (UTC)That's kind of what I was hoping. LOL Cos I do like the a capella stuff, that's really interesting to me and sort of eliminates the electro-pop crap part of the song that I don't really like. So, yeah.... heh
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Date: 2010-12-07 08:05 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2010-12-07 08:10 pm (UTC)This coming from the person who's favorite band is My Chemical Romance.
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Date: 2010-12-07 08:11 pm (UTC)Dude, MCR rocks. Don't even. LOL :-D
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Date: 2010-12-07 08:11 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2010-12-07 08:12 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2010-12-07 08:12 pm (UTC)I think you should not think about this further and enjoy listening to what you like.
Let's put this another way, you do like women in the creative arts like Beth Riesgraf so I would not think about this anymore.
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Date: 2010-12-07 08:16 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2010-12-07 08:17 pm (UTC)Thanks, hon. ((HUGS))
Oh, hey! Would be up for doing a quick beta for me? It's a Wincest story that you betad the first part for way back when.... :-)
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Date: 2010-12-07 08:19 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2010-12-07 08:20 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2010-12-07 08:22 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2010-12-07 08:23 pm (UTC)The rest can go whistle for all I care....
Oh and many years ago I had a very soft spot for Annie Lennox when she was in the Eurythmics...
Deeds xx
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Date: 2010-12-07 08:33 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2010-12-07 08:34 pm (UTC)I will agree with you on Annie Lennox. She is quite amazing. I did like Sarah for awhile there, but a neighbor in my college dorm basically ruined her for me by playing one song (SONG) of hers on repeat for HOURS at a time at full blast. OMG STOP!!
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Date: 2010-12-07 09:01 pm (UTC)There have been some favourite females. I was hugely into Madonna, and Sarah McLachlan. And we won't talk about that period in the 90's where I was obsessed with The Spice Girls. *cough*
With regards to different versions of songs, I've loved some remakes of songs I previously disliked. Alient Ant Farm's version of Michael Jackson's Smooth Criminal is a standout. And just to prove it works the other way to your Katy Perry example, there's an artist called Jenny Owen Youngs who did a fantastic indie-folk version of Nelly's Hot In Herre which I just adore.
In summary, I don't think you are sexist. You're not saying "I won't give this artist a chance because they're female." You just prefer the kind of music that isn't necessarily predominantly made by women.
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Date: 2010-12-07 09:14 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2010-12-07 09:17 pm (UTC)What kind of music do you like? Maybe try entering one of your favorite songs/bands into Pandora and listening to what comes up, to see if you like female singers who have a similar style.
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Date: 2010-12-07 09:40 pm (UTC)I like this. I'm gonna go with this theory. LOL :-D
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Date: 2010-12-07 09:52 pm (UTC)But I have no real favorites and I don't really think about whether I have a proper quota of any particular gender listed under my Like category. I can say with certainty that Katy Perry does not fall anywhere on any list of mine. She just doesn't interest me.
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Date: 2010-12-07 10:01 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2010-12-07 10:38 pm (UTC)Simply put, female singers these days that are featured on the radio aren't very interesting, they sing only about lost love or partying (like many boy-pop bands, too, make no mistake) and well...their songs are shitty.
I do like some women singers, but not nearly as many as the guys. They tend to shriek their songs (the girls). They tend not to have much melody. They tend to sing the same refrains over and over and over.
HOWEVER, I do LOVE women singers/musicians from earlier eras, when they actually SANG music, with melodies, with "stories", and they don't hurt my ears.
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Date: 2010-12-07 10:46 pm (UTC)YES. I've been thinking on it further and I do enjoy the female singers from earlier (50s/60s and even before. Etta James is AMAZING), so I do think my original assessment of my musical tastes to my husband was correct and female singers today are just shit.
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Date: 2010-12-07 10:48 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2010-12-07 10:59 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2010-12-08 09:43 am (UTC)*hugs you tight*
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Date: 2010-12-08 12:31 pm (UTC)